Help! we just got engaged, what do I do next?
First of all, Congratulations!! Getting engaged is such an exciting season of life! But now I’m sure you’re thinking what do I do next? Before you know it, everyone you know is giving you advice and telling you about their wedding and things can start to feel overwhelming really fast. Here are the top 5 things to do after you’re first engaged
Here’s what you should do first:
Celebrate!! You have just decided on spending forever with someone and this is something to celebrate! Take some time to soak it in, breathe, and relax. Your engagement won’t last forever, so take some time to enjoy the phase you are in before jumping ahead.
Decide on the big things. Spend some time off line, off Pinterest, and off Instagram with your significant other to talk about what you want your day to look like. Talk through the big picture things first, and make sure you’re on the same page. Planning a wedding can be difficult and there are a lot of decisions to be made. I always encourage couples to independently write down the top 3 (or 5) most important things for them to be reflected on their wedding day. This helps you to identify something that might be important to your partner, that you weren’t considering. What time of year do you want to get married? Do you want to be married inside or outside? Do you want a big wedding or a more intimate event?
Set a budget: This will be the least fun part of planning your wedding, but the budget has to make things realistic. Starting with a budget early, can minimize the risk of disappointment later on.
Consult with a planner: Every person needs a wedding planner. I am a wedding planner, and I still had help on our wedding day. Wedding planners are fountains of information and help provide assistance and clear direction in the planning process. The average wedding takes 400-500 hours to plan. Having a planner throughout the entire process will ensure you have a beautiful, cohesive wedding that stays on budget. But I am an organized person, I don’t need someone to help with the planning process. This is valid, we work with many couples who have the planning part nailed down and that is a great option for some. However, you will still 100% need help on wedding day. You need someone to worry about table linens, and the timeline, and corralling the bridesmaids and groomsmen so you are able to relax during your wedding day.
Keep your marriage in mind. No one loves weddings more than we do, trust me! But throughout your engagement, keep in mind that your wedding day is not the end, it is the beginning. Why we love weddings, is because it is the start of a beautiful life journey. You are starting your family, surrounded by all those who love and support you.